I recently had a discussion with a new MHC student. They shared having been to a recent event and how moved they were by the powerful presentation of another therapist, whom they referred to as the ‘Sunshine therapist ‘. This term, they explained, symbolized a therapist who exudes warmth, positivity, and authenticity. They reflected that this was the kind of therapist they aspired to be. As expected, they expressed feeling overwhelmed of late by this unspoken expectation to be the expert and thus an invitation to NOT be fully themselves but a better-upgraded version of themselves.
I didn’t have to go back too far in my mind to recount my own experiences that mirrored theirs. But, the distance between them and now is large enough that I was able to offer them the following in response:
When we go into settings where we spend time with other professionals or people, we are often struck by either their authenticity and the powerful ways in which they show up as themselves or the lack thereof. Watching this can fuel an automatic introspection that could
invite viewers to illicit change within themselves. This change could be a great thing. If I were someone who has not engaged authentically for some time or not at all, this prompt could lead to meaningful and lasting change. However, if I am someone newer to this field, unsure of my place, or even inviting “imposter syndrome” to be a dominant story as I grow in my skills, I may accept the invitation to become someone I am not. While the invitation to change can feel ubiquitous in this generation, I posit it should not be so. If left too long without a counterbalance, this course correction of sorts can derail therapeutic growth and prowess long before it begins.
Watching someone else glow or shine in their authenticity is, point of fact, an invitation to rekindle your own fire and be more of who you are as a therapist. The fierce presence of genuine “is-ness” can be liberating and filled with an inviting adhesive quality. I want to stick with myself through this thing called life and show up in genuine ways that fuel the same desire in others to be them, too!
To all of us, regardless of our experience, the seasoned, salty, and less-so therapists among us, let’s commit to showing up as ourselves. Let’s be authentic whether we’re at work or at play. Let’s collectively make a clarion call to the unsalted among us to be authentically themselves! Because as Oscar Wilde is attributed as saying, “Be you: everyone else is already taken.” Who’s with me?
From one salty storyteller to another,
Petra, Registered Mental Health and Marriage and Family Intern #IMH25031
Sage & Lore Counseling