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Prioritizing Mental Health When Going Back to School

Going back to school can be exciting but also bring a wave of stress, pressure, and anxiety. Whether you’re a student, parent, or educator, the transition from summer break to another school year is a major shift that can impact one’s mental health in several ways.

For students, returning to class can mean academic expectations, social challenges, and the pressure to perform. It’s important to acknowledge these feelings rather than dismiss them. Feeling overwhelmed doesn’t mean you’re not good enough; it means you’re human. Creating a routine that includes sleep, time for fun, and self-care can make a huge difference in maintaining one’s mental well-being throughout the year.

Parents, too, may feel the stress of new schedules, homework battles, or supporting children with their mental health struggles. It’s okay to seek support and remember that you don’t have to have all the answers. Simply being present and listening can help your child feel more secure.

As the school year begins, let’s normalize conversations about mental health. Encourage students to speak up if they’re struggling. Support each other with empathy and patience. And most importantly, know that it’s okay to ask for help, whether from a counselor, teacher, parent, or peer.

School is more than just grades; it’s about growth, and growth is never linear. By putting mental health at the forefront, we set ourselves up not just for academic success but for a healthier and more balanced life.

Written by Antonio Garland, Registered Marriage and Family Therapist Intern #4363

Grief Is Not Linear

Grief: Graduate Student Perspective
Everyone has experienced some level of grief at some point in their lives. Grief can be tricky because it is mainly associated with death. Did you know that grief is not limited to death, but is
a result of different types of significant loss? Grief can be the loss of friendships, relationships, jobs, pets, etc.

Stages of Grief
Grief is presented in five stages: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. Identifying a specific stage can be challenging, as some individuals can experience more than one stage. When an individual is experiencing denial, they may experience shock, disbelief, and numbness, and may experience anger towards themselves, others, and even the deceased. Individuals experiencing bargaining may state, “Where is God in this/ How dare God let this happen!” The depression stage can display as “Why go on at all?” Lastly, acceptance consists of acknowledging the loss and adapting to life.

Theories/Techniques
Combining existential and cognitive behavioral therapy can be useful when dealing with grief. Maybe you or someone you know has had difficulty rediscovering their purpose. Existential focuses on redefining purpose by implementing these techniques: the empty chair method, reframing, self-reflection, exploring meaning and purpose, encouraging responsibility, and focusing on the present.

CBT focuses on identifying and reframing negative thoughts. Depending on the situation, individuals may experience survivor’s guilt. Statements like “I wish it were me instead of them,”
or “Things would have been different if I had…” are examples of negative thinking. CBT helps the individual understand their thought process and establish healthier ways of thinking and
coping. Allowing space for addressing guilt and regret is necessary; however, understanding the underlying factors behind their guilt and shame is essential to shift to positive thinking. Shifting
from “I wish it were me instead of them” to “I am hurt that they are no longer with us.” There are other techniques like journaling, mindfulness, and social support.

Coping with Grief
Grief looks different to everyone, meaning coping strategies and healing stages may vary. When dealing with grief, it is important to prioritize self-care, engage in meaningful activities, create
rituals and memorialize, be patient with yourself, acknowledge and accept your feelings, and seek support.

Written by Jasmine Robinson, Master’s Level Graduate Student in Mental Health

Reauthoring Your Life: The Transformative Power of Narrative Therapy

We are all storytellers. From the moment we begin to make sense of the world, we craft narratives about who we are, what we’re capable of, and what our experiences mean. Yet sometimes, the stories we tell ourselves become limiting—creating boundaries that confine rather than possibilities that liberate.

This is where narrative therapy shines. Developed by Michael White and David Epston in the 1980s, narrative therapy recognizes that we are not our problems, and our problems are not us. Instead, our challenges exist in the narratives we’ve constructed or inherited about ourselves.

Through narrative therapy, we learn to externalize problems—to see them not as inherent character flaws but as stories that can be rewritten. When we say, “Anxiety is affecting my life” rather than “I am an anxious person,” we create space between ourselves and the problem. In that space lies freedom.

The process of reauthoring our lives begins with simple awareness. What stories do you tell yourself about your capabilities, your worth, your future? Once identified, these narratives can be examined, questioned, and ultimately transformed.

Importantly, narrative therapy doesn’t dismiss our struggles but reframes them as opportunities for growth. Every challenge becomes a plot twist rather than an ending. Every setback becomes a chapter rather than the whole book.

By identifying “unique outcomes”—those moments when the problem doesn’t dominate—we discover evidence of alternative storylines already present in our lives. These exceptions form the foundation of new, more empowering narratives.

At Sage & Lore, we believe in the power of story to heal and transform. When you turn the page and write your own story, you quite literally change your life.

What page are you turning today?

Written by Petra Wilkes, Registered Mental Health and Marriage and Family Intern #IMH25031

Healing Through Communication: A Call to Counselors Supporting Troubled Teens

Every day, troubled teens walk into our counseling spaces carrying the silent weight of trauma—abuse, neglect, broken trust, and emotional wounds invisible to the eye. As counselors, we hold a sacred opportunity: to speak life into places where pain has tried to silence hope.

Healing starts with communication. It’s not just what we say; it’s how we listen. Active listening, open-ended questions, and creating safe, judgment-free environments are not just techniques—they are lifelines. When we truly hear a young person’s story, without rushing to fix or diagnose, we honor their dignity and invite healing to begin.

In my journey through counseling, I’ve seen firsthand the power of integrating faith with practice. Scripture reminds us: “He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds” (Psalm 147:3, NIV). When we weave biblical principles of hope, redemption, and restoration into our sessions, we offer not just therapeutic tools—but a vision of a future rooted in grace.

Consider Joy, a teenager struggling under the weight of cultural identity pressures and family strain. Through intentional communication and a focus on trust-building, her family began to heal alongside her. Or David, who carried deep shame after trauma until sessions rooted in forgiveness and God’s promises helped him reclaim his sense of worth.

Evidence backs what many of us have witnessed: open communication and peer support significantly increase a teen’s feelings of safety, resilience, and engagement in their healing journey. As counselors, we are not merely therapists—we are builders of bridges back to hope. If you are standing in the gap for hurting youth today, be encouraged: your listening ear, your empathetic heart, your faith-infused words—they matter. Never underestimate the power of communication anchored in compassion and truth. A young life’s tomorrow may be forever changed because you chose to show up with both skill and soul.

Fostering Emotional Health in Autism: MFT Strategies Enhanced with ABA Insights

Emotional well-being is foundational for learning, growth, and authentic connection. This is especially true for autistic individuals navigating a world often shaped by neurotypical expectations. Marriage and Family Therapy (MFT) offers relational tools that nurture empathy, communication, and trust. At the same time, Applied Behavior Analysis (ABA) provides data-driven methods to teach adaptive behaviors and track emotional growth.

When MFT and ABA come together, families experience both Heart and Horsepower: deep emotional healing and measurable progress.

Common Challenges & Integrated Solutions
1. Labeling Complex Emotions
Autistic children often recognize basic emotions like “happy” or “mad,” but nuanced feelings—
such as “anxious excitement” or “melancholic calm”—can be harder to identify.
Strategies:
• Feelings Wheel or Chart
Display a chart with both core and secondary emotions; revisit it daily.
• Emotion Journaling
Use drawings, stickers, or emojis to describe their feelings after key moments (e.g.,
school, outings).
• Real-Time Labeling
Gently suggest words when noticing mood shifts:
“I see you got quiet after the lights dimmed—maybe you feel a bit nervous or tired?”

Template: Daily Feelings Journal

Time Event How I Felt (Choose 1–2 words) Sticker/Drawing
8 AM Getting ready for school Tired, nervous 
3 PM Playdate ended Sad, calm 

 

2. Routine Distress
Even minor changes in schedule can be overwhelming, often triggering shutdowns or
meltdowns.
Strategies:
• Visual Schedules with If–Then Cues
Pair expected vs. adjusted plans side by side:
“If snack is at 3:10, then play starts at 3:30.”
• Preview & Practice
Use a short social story or simple role-play:
“Today we’ll eat later—how might our body feel?”
• Flexible Transition Tools
Offer a sensory-friendly bridge, such as music or a fidget toy during unplanned gaps.

3. Social Anxiety & Avoidance
Interpreting social cues on the fly can feel like juggling flaming torches. Many autistic kids
retreat into comfort behaviors to cope.
Strategies:
• Social Stories & Scripts
Create a one-page guide like “How to Join a Circle Game,” with sample phrases.
• Graded Exposure
Start with short, low-pressure interactions (e.g., 5-minute chats with a new peer).
• Peer Buddies
Pair them with a peer who understands their style and offers gentle cues.

Emotional Health Within the Family System
Strained Dynamics
Emotional dysregulation affects everyone. Parents and siblings may feel torn between helping
and helplessness.
Strategies:
• Family Debrief Circles
Everyone shares one feeling and one need.
“I feel overwhelmed; I need a 5-minute break.”
• Siblings as Helpers
Assign age-appropriate roles (e.g., “You can press play on his calm-down song”).
• Safe Space Agreements
Designate a calming corner or pop-up tent for anyone needing quiet.

Template: Family Debrief Notes 

Family Member Feeling Need
Mom Frustrated Quiet break
Sibling Worried More prep time
Child Tired Snuggle time

Caregiver Burnout
The constant vigilance required can lead to exhaustion, guilt, and withdrawal.
Strategies:
• Scheduled Respite
Protect 90 minutes each week for solo time, without explanation.
• Intentional Micro Breaks
Use a 5-minute ritual (tea, stretch, fresh air) with a timer.
• Peer Support
Join nonjudgmental groups to share wins and challenges.

Template: Self-Care Plan 

Day Micro Break Respite Time Support Group?
Monday Tea & window time 6–7:30 PM 
Thursday Stretch break  

MFT Techniques for Emotional Regulation
A. Emotion Coaching in the Family Context
1. Affective Validation
“I can see you’re upset because the game changed.”
Naming the feeling reduces its power and confusion.
2. Emotional Turn-Taking
Use a timer—each person speaks for 60 seconds, no interruptions.
Builds empathy and communication.

B. Circular Communication Styles
• Linking Cause & Effect:
“What did you feel when the timer rang early?”

• Mapping Patterns:
Draw a “Trigger → Emotion → Response” chart to visualize emotional loops.

Template Mapping Patterns: 

Trigger Emotion Response
Alarm rings Confusion Running out of the room
Loud sound Fear Running away

C. Emotion-Focused Therapy Techniques
• Safe Approach Drills:
Parents calmly approach with open hands and soft voices to build trust.
• Guided Dialogues:
Use scripts like: “I’m worried when you bolt from the room. Can we think of a better
plan together?”

ABA Contributions That Enhance MFT Work
Functional Behavior Assessments (FBA)
• Track Antecedent → Behavior → Consequence to understand emotional triggers.
• Identify reinforcers—like escape or attention (see template examples)—that may
unintentionally maintain a behavior.

Template: ABC Chart 

Antecedent Behavior Consequence
Asked to clean up Screaming/Yelling “no” Mom walked away 
Using the bathroom Yelling “Mom” Mom comes in to help

Teaching Emotional Skills with Behavior Protocols
• Differential Reinforcement:
Reward calm “I’m frustrated” or “I need help” statements more than emotional outbursts.
• Prompt Fading:

Gradually remove adult guidance as the child learns emotional vocabulary and self-
regulation.

Data-Driven Progress Monitoring
• Use Visual Charts to plot progress in real-time.
• Set Baseline and Goal Metrics (e.g., reduce meltdowns from 4 to 1 per week).

Template: Weekly Progress Chart 

Day Meltdowns Calm Words Used Coping Tool Used
Monday “I’m upset” x1 Stress ball

Final Thoughts
When MFT’s empathy-based approach joins with ABA’s precision, families gain more than
coping strategies—connection, confidence, and emotional clarity. With the right tools, emotional
health in autism isn’t just a goal—it’s a shared, achievable journey.

Printable Worksheets
1. Daily Feelings Journal- Helps children identify and express their emotions through words
and visuals.
2. Visual Schedule & First–Then Board- Assists in preparing for routine changes and
transitions.
3. Social Story Template- Guides children through social scenarios with step-by-step narratives.
4. Family Debrief Notes- Facilitates open communication about feelings and needs among
family members.
5. Self-Care Plan for Caregivers- Encourages regular self-care practices to prevent burnout.
6. ABC Behavior Chart- Tracks Antecedent, Behavior, and Consequence to understand
behavioral patterns.
7. Weekly Progress Chart- Monitors emotional regulation progress and sets achievable goals.

Written by Johana Calvo, Registered Marriage and Family Therapist Intern

Navigating Mental Health in Unmargined Populations

Mental health is a universal concern that transcends societal boundaries, yet certain populations remain unseen, unheard, and unmargined in conversations surrounding mental well-being. In this blog post, we delve into the often-overlooked realm of mental health within unmargined populations, exploring the unique challenges they face and shedding light on the importance of inclusivity in mental health
discourse.

Defining Unmargined Populations:
Unmargined populations encompass individuals and communities that, due to various factors such as cultural background, socioeconomic status, ethnicity, gender identity, sexual orientation, or other marginalized attributes, may face additional barriers to accessing mental health resources and support.

Unique Challenges:
1. Stigma and Cultural Barriers: Unmargined populations often encounter stigma associated with mental health within their own communities. Cultural norms and beliefs may contribute to the perception of mental health issues as a taboo subject, hindering open discussions and the seeking of help.

2. Intersectionality: Many individuals belong to multiple marginalized groups, experiencing what is known as intersectionality. The intersection of different identities can compound the challenges faced, leading to increased vulnerability to mental health issues.

3. Limited Access to Resources: Socioeconomic disparities and systemic inequalities may result in limited access to mental health resources, including therapy, counseling, and psychiatric services. Unmargined populations may face financial constraints or live in areas with fewer
mental health facilities.

4. Microaggressions and Discrimination: Daily encounters with microaggressions, discrimination, and prejudice can take a toll on mental well-being. Individuals from unmargined populations may grapple with the cumulative impact of societal biases on their mental health.

Strategies for Support and Inclusivity:
1. Culturally Competent Mental Health Services: Mental health services must be culturally competent, understanding and respecting diverse cultural backgrounds. This involves training mental health professionals to be aware of and sensitive to the unique needs of different
populations.

2. Community Outreach and Education: Initiatives that promote mental health awareness and education within unmargined communities are crucial. This can involve workshops, support groups, and informational campaigns tailored to address specific cultural contexts.

3. Inclusive Policies and Practices: Governments, institutions, and organizations need to implement policies and practices that are inclusive and considerate of the diverse needs of unmargined populations. This includes workplace accommodations, accessible healthcare, and anti-discrimination measures.

4. Peer Support Networks: Establishing peer support networks within unmargined communities can foster a sense of belonging and understanding. Shared experiences create a supportive environment where individuals feel comfortable discussing mental health without fear of judgment.

5. Advocacy and Amplification: Advocacy efforts are crucial for bringing attention to the mental health challenges faced by unmargined populations. Amplifying the voices of individuals within these communities helps challenge stereotypes and dismantle barriers to mental health support.

Conclusion:
Addressing mental health in unmargined populations requires a multifaceted approach that acknowledges the unique challenges these communities face. By fostering inclusivity, advocating for change, and prioritizing culturally competent care, we can work towards creating a mental health landscape that embraces and supports everyone, regardless of their background or identity. The journey towards mental well-being is a shared one, and it is imperative that no one is left behind.

Written by Sherline Herard, MH24002, Licensed Mental Health Counselor

Navigating the Holiday Blues: Finding Light in the Season of Shadows

The holiday season is often portrayed as a time of joy, celebration, and togetherness. However, for many individuals, it can also be a  challenging period marked by the holiday blues. These feelings of sadness, loneliness, and anxiety during the festive season are more common than one might think. In this blog post, we’ll explore the reasons behind the holiday blues and offer practical tips for navigating
this emotionally complex time.

Understanding the Holiday Blues:
1. Social Expectations: The holiday season comes with societal expectations of happiness and togetherness. This pressure to be festive and cheerful can be overwhelming, especially for those who may be dealing with personal challenges or losses.

2. Comparisons and Reflections: The holidays often prompt reflection on the past year, which can lead to comparisons and a sense of unmet expectations. Individuals may find themselves assessing their achievements, relationships, and life choices, potentially triggering feelings of
inadequacy or regret.

3. Loneliness: Not everyone has a robust support system or close-knit family to spend the holidays with. For those who are alone or have strained relationships, the season can amplify feelings of isolation and loneliness.

4. Financial Strain: The financial burden of gift-giving, travel, and hosting can contribute to stress and anxiety. The pressure to meet material expectations can be particularly challenging for those facing economic difficulties.

Navigating the Holiday Blues:
1. Acknowledge and Accept: The first step in addressing the holiday blues is acknowledging and accepting your feelings. It’s okay not to feel festive all the time, and recognizing your emotions is an essential part of self-care.

2. Set Realistic Expectations: Manage your expectations and understand that perfection is not the goal. Embrace imperfections and focus on creating meaningful moments rather than adhering to an idealized version of the holidays.

3. Reach Out for Support: Don’t hesitate to reach out to friends, family, or support groups. Share your feelings and let others know if  you need company or assistance. Connecting with others can provide comfort and a sense of belonging.

4. Create New Traditions: If traditional holiday activities trigger negative emotions, consider creating new traditions that align with your current circumstances and bring joy. This could include volunteering, starting a new hobby, or taking a solo trip.

5. Practice Self-Care: Prioritize self-care during the holidays. Take time for activities that bring you joy and relaxation, whether it’s reading a book, going for a walk, or practicing mindfulness.

6. Seek Professional Help: If the holiday blues become overwhelming and persist, consider seeking professional help. Mental health professionals can provide support, coping strategies, and a safe space to explore and address underlying issues.

The holiday blues are a common and valid experience that many individuals navigate each year. By acknowledging these feelings, setting realistic expectations, reaching out for support, and practicing self-care, it’s possible to find light in the midst of the seasonal shadows. Remember that everyone’s journey is unique, and prioritizing your well-being is key to making it through the holiday season with
resilience and grace.

Written by Sherline Herard, MH24002, Licensed Mental Health Counselor

Emotional Affairs and Personality Disorders in Marriage and Family Therapy

Navigating the Complex Terrain of Emotional Affairs and Personality Disorders in Marriage and Family Therapy
In the intricate landscape of marriage and family therapy, the challenges posed by emotional affairs can be even more profound when compounded by personality disorders. Whether you’re a therapist working with couples or someone navigating these issues personally, understanding the interplay between emotional connections and mental health is essential.

Understanding Emotional Affairs
Emotional affairs often begin as a friendship that deepens into a connection characterized by intimacy and secrecy. Unlike physical infidelity, emotional affairs involve a significant emotional investment in someone outside the marriage, which can lead to feelings of betrayal and profound hurt.

For couples, these affairs can signal deeper issues within the relationship, such as unmet emotional needs, communication breakdowns, or a desire for validation. In therapy, it’s crucial to explore the underlying factors that led to the emotional affair while addressing the couple’s dynamics.

Written by Danielle Fous, Marriage and Family Graduate Student

How Play Therapy Helps Children Conquer Anxiety

Working with children and guiding them through their challenges is a passion of mine over the last 15 years. Play therapy offers a holistic approach to addressing childhood anxiety, allowing children to express themselves authentically while developing essential coping skills. As a marriage and family therapist intern, incorporating play therapy techniques into my practice can make a profound difference in the lives of anxious children and their families. By fostering a therapeutic environment grounded in empathy, acceptance, and creativity, we can empower children to overcome their anxiety and thrive emotionally.

Play therapy operates on the principle that play is the language of children. Through toys, art materials, and other expressive mediums, children can communicate their inner world, fears, and anxieties in a non-threatening manner. Play therapy sessions are guided by the therapist, who observes, reflects, and empathizes with the child’s play, providing a supportive presence throughout the process.
In the context of anxiety, play therapy offers children opportunities to confront their fears, develop coping strategies, and build resilience. Whether it’s engaging in imaginative play, creating stories, or using puppets to act out scenarios, children can gain insights into their emotions and learn effective ways to manage anxiety.

Thank you for joining us on this journey through the world of play therapy.

Written by Danielle Fous, Mental Health Graduate Student

Back-To-School But Make It Stress-Free

As summer winds down, many children are gearing up to head back to school or begin their school journey for the first time. This transition—like any other transitions whether they involve moving, starting a new job, or facing job loss—often bring stress and anxiety to all involved, and heading back to school is no exception. This post provides practical tips and strategies to help ease this transition, aiming to make the back-to-school period more manageable and less stressful for everyone involved.

Prepare
To be productive and successful, it’s crucial to know what needs to be done and when. From waking up on time to meeting work deadlines to picking up the kids from school at their release time, having a clear plan helps to manage everyday tasks more effectively. The same principle applies to new routines, like going to school. Knowing where you need to go and when you need to be there are key to organizing your day efficiently. By preparing in advance, you can reduce stressors such as heavy traffic and extra commuting time.

The unknown or unfamiliar can lead to fear and anxiety for many including children, which can manifest in problem behaviors including tantrums. Ease anxieties about new surroundings by showing videos, pictures, or virtual tours of the school and classroom. Even educational shows or movies about school settings can help. This is what an open house aims to do, however sometimes the open house is full of so much information for the parents that the child does not have adequate time to become familiar with the new classroom, school or teacher and thus taking time to make sure the child is being exposed to what going to school is like, even in a book or story, can serve as a way to make sure that the situation is not so unfamiliar that anxiety and stress arises.

Reach out to teachers, preferably before school starts, to discuss your child’s needs. Building this communication channel early ensures that teachers are aware of any special requirements and can collaborate effectively to support your child and address any special needs for your child.

Discuss any sensory conditions, dietary restrictions, allergies, behavioral strategies, or medications with the school ahead of time. Ensuring that your child’s needs are met will help them feel comfortable and safe.

The importance of routine:
A well-established routine can significantly reduce anxiety and help manage your day more effectively. Children thrive on consistency. In ABA, visual schedules are used to help reduce anxiety and manage transitions by providing a clear outline of daily activities. Visual schedules are also helpful outside of ABA, knowing what to expect and for how long is a great way to relieve anxiety and to promote success.

**How to Create a Visual Schedule: **

1. List Daily Activities: Write down everything that happens from the time your child wakes up until bedtime. Include all activities, such as school, playtime, breaks, and appointments.

2. Organize by Order: Arrange these activities in the order they occur.

3. Use Visuals: Depending on your child’s age, use pictures or printouts to represent each activity. For example, a picture of a backpack can signify “school.”

4. Create the Schedule: Attach these images to a board using Velcro. Place the board where your child can easily see it.

5. Review Together: Go over the schedule with your child to explain each activity. Even if your child is very young or non-verbal, this step is crucial for preparing them.

6. Involve Your Child: Let your child help in creating the schedule. Choosing and cutting out images can make the schedule feel more personal and engaging.

7. Follow Through: As you go through the day, refer to the visual schedule and move completed tasks to the “completed” side. This helps reinforce the routine and provides a sense of accomplishment.

8. Supervise and Support: Actively supervise your child as they follow the schedule. This not only teaches them the importance of routine but also encourages independence as they practice daily tasks.

Reorganizing Your Own Schedule:
Integrating your child’s routine into your own schedule is vital for maintaining balance and peace of mind. By planning activities such as homework, meals, and extracurriculars, you can better manage your time and avoid overbooking. Creating a visual schedule for yourself can also demonstrate the importance of organization to your child and offer a bonding experience.

Practice
Consistency is key to making routines work. By preparing thoroughly, planning with a schedule, and sticking to it, you help minimize stress and ensure that both you and your child are organized. This not only makes the transition back to school smoother but also teaches valuable skills that will benefit your child now and in the future.

By following these steps and establishing a clear routine, you can create a less stressful and more organized start to the school year as well as maintaining functional routines that aid in stress management and success.

Written by Johana Calvo, IMFT, BCaBA

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